Chris and Kyle - An Excellent DIY Adventure at Durham Arts Council - with nods to “The Princess Bride,” “Doctor Who,” Zombies and “Spaceballs”
“Mawwage. Mawwage is what bwings us togevah today.”
And with those words, we began one of the most unusual wedding ceremonies I have ever seen.
You would think that holding down full time jobs and furthering their educations would be full plates enough for anyone, but for these two self-described nerds, you would definitely be wrong. They designed and created everything for their wedding - the wedding stationery, the ceremony (text and staging), the decorations, the food, the guest favors, the music for the ceremony and reception. Their attention to detail was in every part of the wedding and reflected all the facets of their love, their talents and their life-affirming approach to life.
Before we go any further, I want to thank their photographer, Hannah Woodard, of Hannah Woodard Photography, for all her great photos used here. Hannah wrote a blog post about this wedding and also submitted photos to Offbeat Bride, which later featured an article about Chris and Kyle’s wedding. You should definitely check out both Hannah’s blog post and the Offbeat Bride article!
I love what Hannah wrote about unique weddings;
"You’ll probably notice that Chris and Kyle definitely marched to the beat of their own drum when planning their wedding! The two of them found me through a website called Offbeat Bride, a site I took a lot of inspiration from for my own teeny-tiny wedding. Being offbeat isn’t about being as quirky as possible and rejecting every possible tradition; it’s about being authentic to yourselves as individuals, and as a couple. For some couples, traditional and classic is them. For others, wearing menswear with a beautiful birdcage veil and talking about the zombie apocalypse in your ceremony is much more real and personal. And for many, it’s a mix! The philosophy behind offbeat weddings is so freeing, and that’s what I love about them.”
This was a DIY wedding extroardinaire!
I have never heard The Muppets song, “Somebody’s Getting Married,” played at a wedding, but it was included in the unique musical choices right before the processional began.
To show what a partnership in life this is to be, Chris and Kyle entered the ceremony together. Both the Bride and Groom wore suits and tennis shoes. They had made the bouquet and boutonnieres from origami-folded wrapping paper and Chris was wearing a birdcage veil with some peacock feathers on one side - which she also made. She was wearing some interesting jewelry - check out those sonic screwdriver earrings!
Love the nerd socks.
During the ceremony, they mentioned they were joining one another as spouses, zombie-killing partners, gym-spotters and Sous Chefs. They spoke beautiful vows to each other that they had written themselves. During the ring vows I accidentally messed up Kyle’s name (sorry Kyle!) but they turned it into a funny moment.
To conclude the ceremony, they used some dialogue from the movie, Spaceballs;
Me - Chris and Kyle, do you?
Chris - Yes!
Kyle - Yes!
Me - Good, you’re married - kiss her!
The ceremony took place on the upper floor of the light-filled, expansive front stories of the Durham Arts Council. What a wonderful, airy room! It even had white twinkle lights hanging from the tall ceiling, which added an almost ethereal effect.
The reception was held on the lower floor.
Look at all the DELICIOUS food that they made themselves - they were their own caterers!
The guest favors were recipe booklets of all the food goodies Chris and Kyle had made - yum!
There were card and board games for the guests to play - what a novel idea.
The Doctor Who TARDIS was in evidence as the card holder and on the poster-sized guest book.
All the table decorations were wrapping paper origami flowers around ribbon-wrapped candle holders - and they sparkled beautifully in that sunny room.
As you might imagine, they had choreographed their first dance, with lots of twirls and loving looks at each other.
Everything about this wedding showed how much they had put their hearts into the planning and it was truly touching to behold. With family and friends, they had many helping hands, but this wedding was all Chris and Kyle - and it was all the better for it.
After the wedding, they put together a video of their wedding photos and music.
Chris and Kyle are creating a new last name by hyphenating each of their last names - and that speaks volumes about the kind of marriage they intend to have. Partnership is everything in a marriage and it seems these two have taken that ethos to heart.
Hannah took this great shot of the newlyweds at some point during the reception… I think it is one of my favorites of the day.
I tip my hat to all those people who share a fun approach to the world and who are not afraid to let their individuality be a guiding force in their lives. For Chris and Kyle, this will be an excellent adventure indeed!
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