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Reverend Barbara Lodge is Chosen to Receive The Knot Best of Weddings Award for 2012

I have just received word from The Knot that I have been chosen as a 2012 pick for their “Best of Weddings” award.

Wow - what an honor!

The winners for The Knot’s “Best of Weddings” are chosen by wedding couples registered on  This award is given to wedding professionals whose clients have taken the time to write reviews and have sent referrals through The Knot’s chat communities to other wedding couples looking for help with their weddings.

I am so thrilled to be receiving this award, especially as it comes as a result of the kindness of couples whose weddings have all been so special to me.

Thank you so much to everyone who has put in a good word for me. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your caring and support.

At the end of January 2012, all the “Best of Weddings” winners will be listed on the knot website but, golly, I just can’t hold it in until the end of January!

Thanks again to all of you who made this happen!


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Chris and Taylor Become Husband and Wife on a Brilliant Autumn Day at MacGregor Downs Country Club in Cary

The day was brisk and sunny and everything in nature was sparkling. It was a beautiful backdrop for the happiness in the hearts and on the faces of everyone there - an absolutely perfect day for a wedding!

Taylor and Chris are a great compliment to each other except for one thing - he loves going camping and rock climbing but she would rather be at home, surrounded by her modern life. Over the years they have been together, she has learned to go with the flow for Chris and can now enjoy being out in the glory of nature - but firmly planted on terra firma, please. She brought that up in her vows and everyone laughed. It was a fun moment.

Taylor and Chris chose to marry at MacGregor Downs Country Club in Cary. The very capable Event Coordinator there is Makeda (“mah-KAY-dah”) Pride and she did a wonderful job of making sure everything was in order for this happy celebration. I love doing weddings at MacGregor Downs because of the feel of the clubhouse and the radiant beauty of the grounds. On this particular day, radiant was the operative word, with the sun shining on the bright green grass of the golf course behind us and bouncing off MacGregor Lake, making the glow of the day even more intense. It was magical.

Makeda told the photographers, Carolyn and Geoff, of Carolyn Scott Photography, about a hidden area of beautiful pink grasses across the green and this resulted in some very special photos. When I first saw these particular photos I thought they must have been Photoshopped, but no, they are the actual photos. So romantic! Kudos to Carolyn and Geoff for their skill and to Makeda for letting them know this marvelous place existed.

By the way, all the photos in this post have been contributed by Carolyn and Geoff. If you would like to see more of their photos from the wedding, here is a link to their blog post about it. Thanks for the use of your photos, Carolyn and Geoff. Your work is totally awesome, as always.

Carolyn and Geoff are a husband and wife team and this particular day was also their first anniversary. I had been the minister for their wedding and it was great to be able to share their anniversary with them. It made for an even more magical day as all of us celebrated two very happy love stories.

Some fun things Taylor and Chris did for their wedding;

One of Taylor’s nephews was Sign Boy and entered with this great sign announcing Taylor’s entrance. He was followed by another nephew who was the Leaf Boy and dispersed leaves down the aisle. Leaf Boy’s red hair really set off those autumn leaves.

Taylor and Chris had also asked if we could do the Chinese Finger Ceremony that represents how couples are meant to be together. I had never seen this done before and was very glad they brought it to my attention.

The Chinese believe that all the fingers on the hand represent our relationships with our families and that they show by their very capabilities how partners in life are meant to remain together;

the thumb represents our parents
the index finger represents our siblings
the middle finger represents ourselves
the ring finger represents our spouse
the pinky finger represents our children

Here is how it works;  you put your palms together, not quite touching, and bend down your middle fingers (that represents yourself) so they are touching at the second knuckle. Then you put all the other finger tips together. You will find that you can separate all the finger tips except your spouse finger because your parents, siblings and children are meant to go from you in their lives. Only your spouse is meant to stay with you and, indeed, you cannot separate your ring fingers from each other when your hands are held this way. I had everyone join in as I was showing them what to do and explaining the symbolism as I went. There was a very powerful shared moment as all the guests came to realize this amazing symbol of love and commitment we each carry in our own hands.

When it came time for the wedding kiss and the recessional, a pair of Canadian geese flew over  the aisle from the lake. Canadian geese mate for life and those geese seemed an apt symbol of the deep and abiding love and commitment Taylor and Chris have for each other. Yes, it truly was a perfect day for a wedding.

 Taylor and Chris, may you always have the glorious life together that your wedding day portends.


UPDATE - 5-17-13 - Taylor and Chris welcomed a beautiful daughter into their lives in December 2012. They are going to be amazing parents! 

For Taylor’s first Mothers Day in 2013, Chris made a sweet video for her as a tribute of his love for her, their daughter and their sweet, sweet family. Here is a link to his video, entitled, My life. I hope you will take the time to watch this short video. It is sure to touch your heart.

I wrote a blog post about it today and you can read it here if you would like.


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Becky and Jeff Marry at Historic Crenshaw Hall Surrounded by Omens of Love and Luck

Becky and Jeff had a halting start to their relationship. Friends set them up and on their first date but there wasn’t a lot of talking. Hmm. A couple of months later they went to a Journey concert but still not a lot of talking going on so they figured it wasn’t a good fit. Luckily for them both, Jeff looked her up again a year later and asked her out. She said yes and they have been together ever since.

The wedding day was expected to be rainy, as it had been for the rehearsal, so everyone was enlisted to visualize the  wedding day as sunny - preferably with a slight breeze, thank you very much. Well, all those prayers and visualizations worked in spades for there were positive omens everywhere you looked on the wedding day.

Talking with the radiant Bride before the ceremony began, she told me TWO four-leaf clovers had been found out in the grass by a nephew and one of them she had tucked into a lily in her beautiful bouquet. I thought that was rather impressive and got a shot of it right then and there.

Although there was no rain, the sky was definitely overcast but, as we were all so thankful there was no rain, that was fine with us. However, as I began talking about Becky and Jeff in the Address portion of the ceremony, the sun came out and shined directly on all of us, but especially on Becky and Jeff. It was remarkable. Becky’s veil was glowing in the sunshine, making it look like she had a halo around her head. It made their vows even more poignant.

When the ceremony was over and I was walking over to chat with Becky and Jeff before their photos began, I saw four bald eagles flying overhead. Not only do you seldom see a bald eagle, but four together? HIGHLY unusual. Among other very positive attributes, eagles are ancient symbols of spiritual protection, wisdom, courage, strength, great power, balance, dignity with grace. How appropriate for this special couple who are all about love for each other and their families.

I would say that with all the prayers and best wishes going up from all of us for that wedding, The Universe was stepping in to answer all of them. Becky and Jeff are sure to have an incredible life to come!

The ceremony was held at the lovely Historic Crenshaw Hall in Wake Forest. Nestled out in the countryside and off the beaten path, it is a lovely wedding and reception location, adaptable for large or small groups. Christie Fernandez is the Owner and Manager and she knows exactly how to use this charming venue to best effect. It was great working with her and getting to see how she works. She is very efficient.

Here is the intimate wedding garden.

 And the huge terrace beside the house, perfect for the cocktail hour and dancing under the stars later. A tent was set up in case of rain which, luckily, was not necessary in the end.

Also on hand to help Becky and Jeff create their wonderful day was Courtney Scholl of Parties by Bash. With two such capable ladies, there was no chance of anything going wrong at all. And besides, luck was completely on the side of Becky and Jeff.

The musicians were Scott Laird on violin, Elena Evans on flute and Jamie Walker on cello (hope to have Jamie’s contact link soon). Their music was superb and fit beautifully with the feel of the celebration and the environment itself.

Sitting on a china cabinet inside the Hall was this little sign with a great saying, “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.” With everything I saw in action for this wedding, I would say this is the most perfect decoration they could have had - besides their love, Mother Nature and The Universe, of course.

Becky and Jeff, may all your amazing omens of love and luck remain as abundant in your life to come as they were on your wedding day!


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