Wedding couples and their families are often faced with a dizzying array of etiquette questions in planning a wedding. What was considered proper in Grandma and maybe even Mom’s day may be considered quite passé today or have evolved into an updated version of its old self. So how do you know what to do?
“What is the proper way to do [this or that]?” is a common refrain I hear as a wedding minister. Questions stem from how to stage the wedding, to what is the proper way to address an invitation, to what is included in a program, or how to recognize Mom or Dad’s previous or current spouses and/or significant relationships. How do you draw the line with guest invitations and if you do, how do you? Is it rude to exclude children from the wedding and reception? Is a cash bar acceptable? So many questions.
I came upon a very good blog post about this topic today. Being a regular reader of the blog, Elegala.com, because they often have interesting and helpful articles pertaining to weddings, I noticed they had a post about the most common wedding etiquette dilemmas and how to resolve them. It is a very good post with lots of sound advice on all of the areas listed below. If you are grappling with issues in any of these areas, you will find the article very helpful.
- introducing your parents
- how to introduce divorced parents
- including your in-laws in the planning
- which sets of parents provide help in what areas
- inviting partners and guests
- inviting children
- inviting out of town guests
- guests who ask to bring a guest
- gift registry etiquette
- asking for money as a wedding or shower gift
- gift thank you notes
- how to return wedding and shower gifts if the wedding is cancelled
- wedding attire for the Bridal Party and guests
- cash bar etiquette